LIFESTYLES BLOG
How Should You Choose How Much You Should Give Up?
Robert & Julia Connors
If you are hyperactive, outgoing, or a person who loves to always become busy or productive, this lifestyle is for you. You have the need to do more than just survive the day and you also have the drive to get what you want and to achieve your dreams. You also tend to be a "perfectionist," meaning you tend to make sure you did everything "to the letter."
However, if there is one thing you should be able to agree on, it is that you can achieve more with a less way of life. You should be able to live on less, as you watch your life flow before you rather than last in a pointless, useless spiral of work and money and success and failure.
You should feel happier with less.
This means you have to start loving what you do not hate. Not because you want to, but because you need to. And you should be able to do less. It is not about not wanting to or wanting to do less, but about having the inner freedom to do less.
If you have been told to be happy, you have been told to do less, to give up more, to go after more, to compete harder, to make more, it will feel foreign to love what you do not wish to do.
You have to learn to love the work, the dreams, the love of being your own person, of being connected to the best in yourself and others.
It is about being happy with what you do not wish to do and knowing that there is a better way for what you do wish to do.
You must learn to be your authentic self for doing less. It is about being happy with the rest of YOU.
If the best in work, the best in life is what you aspire to, then the best of what you can make should be a natural result of doing less and giving up what you cannot do.
If your desire for the best is the result of your wanting to be a better worker, then the desire for the best in work is the inevitable result of doing less and giving up what you cannot do.
What you do not want to do should be as natural a part of your life as the rest of YOU. It should follow naturally from your desire for the best in yourself and others.
If you feel you "should" give up more, try giving up less. If you feel you "should" compete harder, try competing for lesser. If you "should" push yourself harder, try pushing yourself less.
If the best in life is what you aspire to, you should be able to have that by doing less, not more. Your desire for the best in life needs to be as natural as the desire for the best in work.
You should have as natural a connection to the best in YOU as you desire in life.
How to Get Motivated to Learn
Robert & Julia Connors
If you are hyperactive, outgoing, or a person who loves to always become busy or productive, this lifestyle is for you. However, these characteristics can also be limiting if you don't have the patience to give yourself the time you need to recharge your batteries so that you can perform at your best. When you are always moving, thinking about something, or planning to do something, you tend to lose focus as to how to spend your time properly. If you can't find something to be thankful about in your life you will probably lose all sense of contentment.
One of the best things that you can do to help yourself with this is to start meditating. Meditating simply means focusing on your breathing. You do this by slowing down your bodily activity so that you become aware of how your body responds to your thoughts and feelings. This simple activity can provide you with some amazing insights as to how you can improve your emotional balance, which will improve your performance.
You can also check out self-help books available online. These can contain tons of great tips and suggestions on how you can use your creativity to improve your performance to your advantage. You can also look for people you can collaborate with, or just take a look at what other people are doing on the internet and see what you can borrow or steal. You can also participate in online conversations, or online communities, in order to find like-minded people who are working towards the same goals. There is no reason why you can't be a part of these communities and help each other along or help other people progress in mind and spirit.
There is an art to being a part of online communities, and you don't have to be a part of every single one. You can focus on certain ones that you are a part of, to avoid distractions. For example, you can focus on discussions on weight loss, when there are others who are looking for answers to the question of how to lose weight, you can divert your attention from the weight loss discussion to those discussions by focusing on those. There are no limits to what you can do in order to help other people. If there are people who are looking for ways to improve their mood, you can write down your suggestions in a diary, and read it out to them at a later point in time, or you can share it with them via email.
All you need is the right motivation and the determination to achieve your goals, the right attitude, and the willingness to learn and improve in order to achieve your dreams.
Why I'm Giving Up My "Own Reality" For a More Personalized Life
Robert & Julia Connors
Have you ever had the experience of wondering where your life went and what happened to it? It happens to people all the time. It's like a door slamming and the lights are turned off. We just don't know what happened to our life. We have no clue what happened to it.
How do we know when it happened? There is no clock or chronometer to check that door was shut and sealed closed for good. We can't count on it. We can't see it. We can't see from the outside whether that door closed and locked at noon on a certain day.
But there is something we can do. We can know and we can feel it. We can feel what that feels like. We can know what that feels like by reading the tea leaves. We can sense when it happened. We can feel it by looking at things that reminded us of it or by asking ourselves a question or two.
I don't know about you, but I have a very good idea of what I'm feeling when I'm not feeling great. When I'm under pressure and feeling panicked. When I'm feeling miserable and exhausted and on my own. When I'm feeling stressed and over-prepared and running on empty. When I'm feeling angry, frustrated, lonely, and scared. When I'm depressed, bummed, sad, and down in the dumps. When I'm bored, annoyed, tired, and full of resentment.
And what I'm feeling, when I'm feeling all these emotions, are my tea leaves. My tea leaves are my inner thoughts and beliefs. The things from my life that I've been accepting for so long. The things that have been bothering me my whole life. The things that just got old and were no longer funny. They're gone, just like that door that used to be open. And when the door slams, the tea leaves, my inner thoughts, become visible to me.
So I have a sense of what it's like to no longer be in charge of my life. How it feels like it's my fault that things didn't turn out the way I wanted like I was the victim. How the only thing that I can do is to correct what's happened, like a victim correcting its crime. How I feel like a victim of circumstance, luck, or fate. How I get to decide my fate. How I can make decisions to create my future and not the one that just happened to me. How I'm now free to create my life.
I now have the courage to say, "I don't know why it happened this way. I know what happened is my fault. I can't understand why I let it happen. I can't accept that it happened. But I'm going to make different decisions now." The tea leaves, the inner thoughts became visible to me and I'm going to make different choices from now on. I'm making new choices and new future choices.